You may not be able to see it, but he’s head over heels in love.
When I was a little girl, there was a boy in my class that I liked but I didn’t think he liked me. He was always teasing me, pretending to throw dead flies at me, making fun of me, and generally being a pest and a brat.
To me, his behavior indicated that, at best, he found me a fun target and, at worst, I was annoying to him. Some of it was this side of bullying but he never was mean, even when he made me the butt of the joke.
Looking back now I can see he clearly liked me but I was too inexperienced with the opposite $ex at that time to recognize that he had feelings for me or what to do with those feelings.
People show their love and affection in all different ways and sometimes it can feel as if you need a translator to translate the things someone does and says to know that their way of loving.
The way each of us loves differs from person to person. I may show love in a completely different way than my partner. If we can’t tell that when the other person does a certain thing because it’s their way of saying “I love you,” there can be problems down the line in the relationship.
Now, if an adult male threw dead flies at me, I wouldn’t take that as his way of flirting; I would take it as disgusting, rude, and revolting. I wouldn’t want to date him; I’d want him as far from me as possible, hopefully seeking help for his obviously poor mental health.
But some ways of love aren’t that clear cut. I make sure that the coffee pot is always plugged in so my partner doesn’t make the mistake of thinking he’s drowsily in the process of making coffee first thing in the morning when the coffee pot isn’t even on. It may not be a huge declaration of love, but it’s thoughtful and it’s my way of saying that I love him.
Here’s how to know if he loves you, for sure, based on his zodiac sign.
When an Aries loves, they love with their whole heart. You’re a strong and independent woman but that doesn’t mean that he won’t want to be your knight in shining armor. He loves the chase, so don’t make it too easy for him — make him court you and demonstrate his love. When he’s finally ready to commit, he’ll be yours and yours only and will expect the same from you. Since he’s extremely passionate, it’s not surprising that he can get jealous and may say the wrong thing when he’s being emotional and not thinking straight. Don’t be surprised if he starts a fight — he finds conflict exciting and especially enjoys makeup $ex. Conflict and jealousy may not be the kind of love indication that you’re used to but that’s the way Aries rolls.
Taurus men love completely and quietly. You may not even know when you’ve been upgraded from friend to partner as he can be very quiet about how he’s feeling. He’s not somebody who is going to shout from the rooftops that he’s in love or stand outside your house singing a love song. He will take a long time getting to know you and making sure that you’re the one. When he’s in love, he’ll want you all to himself and will prefer having quiet dinners at home with you. He’ll most likely show that he loves you through the power of touch, making sure that he’s sensual side is put to good use making sure you’re satisfied. While it may not be the loudest declaration of love you’ve ever had, just know that those sweet caresses and thoughtful moves are his way of showing you he loves you.
The Gemini man is never static and they tend to fall in love with someone who can keep up with them and is also ever-changing. If he shares his thoughts and feelings with you, that’s how to know if he loves you. He thrives on communication and feels closest to someone when they are on the same wave-length. He will seduce you with words and ideas and keep you fascinated with all that he is. He’s probably had quite a few loves before you, so it may be challenging to get him to commit, but once you do, he’ll be connected to you in some way forever. It may be tricky to read Gemini’s signs of love but they’re there if you look closely.
Cancer men are much more creative than they’re often given credit for, so when he loves, he’ll express his emotions in creative and heartfelt ways. He loves to love and all of his relationships are special to him. He’s very loving and will make you feel not only loved but protected. Stability and family are very important to him, so don’t be surprised if he starts talking about making a serious commitment early in the relationship. One of the nice things about being loved by a Cancer is how spontaneous they are when it comes to showing their love — everything from making you breakfast in bed when it’s not even your birthday to arranging a romantic hot air balloon ride. Once you get to the point where Cancer is going out of his way to make you happy, you’ll definitely know for sure he loves you.
When a Leo loves, they love in front of an audience, so try not to be caught off-guard when he proposes in a crowded restaurant or puts his love on the video screen during a major football game. Leos are good at many things but no one surpasses them in the arena of the grand gesture. He’ll be proud of you and will want you by his side, showing you off and basking in the glow of love. Don’t be surprised if he buys you all kinds of gifts from the tiny but thoughtful to the exorbitantly priced piece of jewelry. You have to trust that as generous as Leo is, he wouldn’t be this exuberant about you if he wasn’t majorly in love with you.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
You may feel that you’re being scrutinized if a Virgo man loves you. He’s going to want to know everything he can about you and that includes gathering information from sources other than you. Don’t be surprised if he treats you like a research project. He’ll not only talk to the people closest to you, he’ll be looking at your social media. He’ll overthink and analyze all your actions and will beat himself up when he missteps or does something embarrassing. The truth is he’s very smart, very sweet, but can get all wrapped up in his feelings that he won’t know what he’s doing — and that’s kind of scary for him. He’s not about infatuation if he loves you, it’s the real deal and he’ll take it very seriously and that’s how you know you can take his love seriously too.
The Libra man is very romantic and charming so you may feel as if you’re in a romance novel. He’ll make sure you know that he loves you with flowers, presents, and just the way that he treats you as if you’re a princess. He’ll never bluntly say something that might hurt, as he is both tactful and gracious. He’ll always try to see things from your point of view if there’s any kind of disagreement and he will definitely try to work out a problem. Libras hate going to bed mad. It may feel as if you’re caught up in a romance novel but go with it, it’s how you know he’s sincere in his love for you.
Generally, Scorpios like to have an air of mystery but when he’s in love, he can’t help but show it to the world. Scorpios are intensely passionate and when they commit, they commit 100 percent. He will give himself over to you and will love you deeply and fearlessly. He’s not going to show his love until he’s completely sure of it and you, but once he knows he can trust you, he’ll make it his mission to make you feel happy and loved. In fact, he may scare you a little with the depth of his love, but stay with him for no one will love you as passionately and completely as he will. If you’re at the point in your relationship where he is telling everyone about his love for you, you can trust that it’s sincere.
Capricorn men tend to be more practical than romantic. They’re the types of men who (decades ago) would cluelessly buy their wives vacuum cleaners for Christmas and would be completely surprised at how it didn’t go over well. They’re capable of tremendous passion but it’s more likely to come out in the bedroom that in some grand gesture. They’re private people and keep their emotions in check. He may come off kind of cold and aloof but that doesn’t mean he’s not a burning flame of love — he just prefers to show it by making sure your car has regular oil changes or setting up a retirement account for you. It’s not exactly $exy but you’ll probably be grateful for his thoughtfulness someday. He may not be the most obvious person when he’s in love but if you take careful notice, you’ll realize that for him, getting your tires rotated is like a love letter from someone else.
Aquarians aren’t that comfortable with huge emotional displays, so you may assume that you’re just friends and that’s where your relationship will stay. But Aquarians are clever and innovative and will eventually let you know how they feel in a completely unique way. You’ll notice that he’ll invite you to hang out with him and his friend all the time, and will introduce you to his family. Before you can be sure of his emotions, he’ll be making plans for the two of you to be together. An Aquarius may keep you guessing but they’ll never bore you. If he wasn’t in love with you, he’d never include you in his life to the extent he has. Remember actions speak love louder than words where Aquarius is concerned.
When a Pisces is in love, he’ll be over the top. He’ll love you with such force that it might embarrass you or him a little. He’ll be composing lyrics in your honor or painting your portrait. Whatever you do, don’t criticize him because Pisces are very sensitive and can get hurt easily. Make sure he’s the one you want, because it’s cruel to toy with a Pisces, especially when all he wants is to please you. He puts himself out there and people have been known to take advantage of him but that never stops him. He believes in love so much, he’s always willing to try again, even when his past relationships have been disastrous. It’s clear when a Pisces loves you, the question is are you ready for his love?