Are you in a boring relationship?
It’s one of the world’s best-known truths that relationships are never going to be easy. It can be very challenging for couples to maintain the flames and the sparks in their passionate love affairs. It doesn’t really matter how great the starting story of a relationship can be. It’s all about how they are able to survive the hardships of the deep stretches of the relationship. Couples just can’t afford to fall into safe zones of complacency and routine when it comes to relationships. You have to continually be putting in the effort to make the flame of your love burn brighter each and every day.
Relationships don’t ALWAYS have to be exciting every single second of every single day. But you have to understand that a few shakeups are required just to spice things up a little. It adds some zest and flavor into the relationship. It gives the relationship that extra little kick that keeps you coming back for more. If you fall into a perpetually boring routine, over time, it might morph into some form of resentment for yourself, for your partner, and for your relationship as a whole.
That’s why you should make it a point to never allow your relationship to become a boring one. When you find yourselves in some kind of rut or unholy routine, then you should make an effort to diversify your daily activities. Add something interesting to your daily lives. Find new challenges. Step out of your comfort zones. Find new hobbies or travel an unexplored land together. Whatever you can do to keep the blood pumping and the mind flowing is always a good thing.
So how exactly do you know when you’ve become that couple that has just settled into too much of a routine? What are the signs that you have actually become the monotonous and boring couple? Well, read on until the end of this list to find out. If a lot of the items listed on here apply to your relationship, then you need to make some serious adjustments.
1. You’ve practically run out of things to talk about in conversations.
You don’t find anything interesting to talk about anymore. Your life and relationship has hit a plateau when it comes to things that you want to talk about. You are no longer interested in what you or your partner has to say about anything. Maybe all you need is some new perspective. Start exposing yourselves to new things.
2. You can’t remember the last time you had fun with each other.
The last time you had fun was either when you were by yourself or when you were with your friends. Yikes. Go out and do something fun with each other right away!
3. Your $ex life is on life-support.
A healthy and active $ex life is a very important aspect of 21st century relationships. You need to keep things bright and lively in the bedroom if you want that kind of color and life to manifest itself in your relationships.
4. You don’t do any new activities as a couple.
Don’t become that old couple that just chooses to stay at home and stare at each other all day. Go out and new learn hobbies together. Try attending a yoga class together. Take up wakeboarding or hiking. Do something that makes your blood pump faster
5. Dates are practically a thing of the past.
You should still be dating each other no matter how deep you are in a relationship. In fact, the deeper you get into a relationship, the more important dates become. You should still always maintain the fire and passion that was present during your courtship days. Go on a few creative dates every once in a while just to remind one another of why you fell in love in the first place.
6. You no longer find the time to do things that make you happy.
Always make sure that you don’t forget to keep yourself happy in the process. Whenever you are sad or unhappy in your personal life, it’s going to carry over into your relationship. If you maintain an optimistic and positive outlook on life in general, that kind of positivity is going to manifest itself in your relationship as well.
7. You don’t have a life outside of your relationship.
You should still have a life outside of your relationship. You should also be able to express your passion for your work, your hobbies, and your other interests. If your relationship is your whole life, then you are depriving yourself of some much needed depth, perspective, and exposure from other aspects of life.
8. You don’t make an effort to look good for each other anymore.
You should still be trying your best to make your partner fall in love with you more and more every day. Make an effort to keep your body tight and chiseled. Dress well for your partner. Remind them that they are still worth the effort of keeping yourself looking good all the time.