Marriages don’t end overnight but these days, these don’t take years to erode. Erosion might happen within a few day span. Everyday ups and downs can turn into violent turmoil that disrupts the relationship completely.
So how do you if you are experiencing just regular ups and downs or serious issues that might disintegrate your marriage? Here’s how.
The home is quiet – It’s not the comfortable silence that couples who have been in an LTR are accustomed to. This silence pervades because words have become too heavy. The only communication that happens is about how to coexist like who’ll put the trash into the bin etc. The communication about each other’s feelings and needs is completely ignored.
You even think a lot about flirting with others – If you’re constantly thinking of flirting with the cute guy you met at the store yesterday or locking eyes with the brother of your friend’s, this is the sign your physical and emotional needs are not being met in your current relationshipand your marriage stands on the brink of falling.
You can’t communicate without being sarcastic – You can’t open your mouth without bickering or sarcastically biting. This means you haven’t just lost your ability to communicate. You have also lost feelings for each other. The feelings of hatred, disgust that you’re experiencing for your partner may be the last straw in your relationship.
You touch each other way less than before – The moment physical intimacy ends, your relationship ends too. You may have totally lost your urge to touch or communicate with your estranged partners. You no longer touch, kiss or brush up against each other while walking. These features appear forced or awkward. This means you need to consider this seriously. It may be the last straw on the camel’s back.
Your needs are getting filled elsewhere – You had rather talk about your inner feelings to your mom, co-worker or worst your ex than with your accomplice. If this is happening, it means you are gonna lose your partner soon. The end in communication signifies the end of a relationship. If your physical and emotional needs are unmet for a long time, this symptom arises. It’s possible with a professional intervention to develop new ways of communicating.
You would rather spend time out with your friends – Your friends have taken on more priority than your partner. You find the time spent with your partner unfulfilling and void. For this, even social media needs to be held accountable. Online relationships are replacing the real ones. The ordinate amount of time spent online, even when you both are online, suggests, “Do not DISTURB”.
“ME” instead of “WE” – When your relationship is at the edge, the sense of emotional and physical disconnect makes you feel alone and separates your emotions away. You stop thinking about a collaborative future and think more about yourself. More of your decisions are geared towards your own future than the collective future you dreamt of sharing.